Decide TogetherPick The Rule First
Agree how the group will decide before anyone argues about what to decide.
Half the frustration in group decisions comes from people assuming different rules. One person thinks it's a vote, another thinks the boss decides after listening, a third thinks nothing happens until everyone agrees. Settling the rule first turns a fight about process into a short, calm agreement.
How to use it
- Name the decision and the owner, if there is one (see One Name On It).
- Choose the rule out loud: one decider after input, consent (no reasoned objection), majority vote, or unanimity.
- Match the rule to the stakes: unanimity for things that need everyone's wholehearted effort, one decider for speed, consent for most team matters.
- Agree the fallback if the rule stalls, such as "if no consent by Friday, the owner decides".
- Write the rule at the top of the notes, then start on the options.
Example
A charity board about to choose a new office says up front: the chair decides after hearing every trustee, and any trustee may ask for their objection to be minuted. The discussion is shorter because nobody is campaigning for votes.
Watch out
- Changing the rule halfway because the likely result is unwelcome.
- Calling it consensus when one person actually decides. Be honest about the rule; Consent Decision is a distinct option, not a softer word for a vote.